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treating a woman like the epitome of beauty that she is, is not a
difficult task, and trust me when I say, there are certain positive
rewards for good behaviour. Kind of like prison, but if you were/are in
prison, you probably need a little more help than an article on
chivalry. Or maybe you can use these lessons to woo your cellmate. Like I
said earlier, I don’t judge.
a man, much like you, I am lazy, and therefore I am going to write my
“Ten Commandments of Being a Man” in a handy dandy list format…it worked
for God, it’ll work for me. Feel free to print this out and put in your
wallet, trust me, you will thank me later. Without further adieu…
1. She is your girl, you should have no girl but her
this is important. When you are on a date with a girl, she should be
the only girl that matters. This is immeasurably more important if you
are dating or married to said girl. Do not text another girl, do not
talk to another girl, and no hitting on the waitress. There is no other
girl but her when you are out with her.
2. Do not worship technological idols
your iPhone, iPod, iPad, laptop, Blackberry and any other piece of
technological idolatry away. Do you really need to check your fantasy
football team while eating lunch? Trust me bro, she does not care how
many points Aaron Rogers is putting up, no matter how interested she may
3. Do not take the word woman in vain
use the words: bitch, slut, tramp, especially the “C” word, or any
other derogatory word about a woman around your woman. A true gentleman
does not use these words to begin with, but I am not writing this for a
true gentleman, I am writing this for you. Included in this commandment,
never call your woman by another woman’s name. Honestly, it is the
equivalent of using any of the words found on the list above, but
probably a million times harsher. (Well maybe not as bad as the “C”
word…trust me guys, they HATE that word.)
4. Remember key dates. Get off your lazy ass and do something on them
remember everything, and you better believe that even if they do not
act like it, it is a big deal that you forgot about the day you first
met, trust me, they care. This is not an impossible task guys. Remember
her birthday, your anniversary; Valentine’s Day…heck some of you may
need help remembering New Year’s Eve. There is no excuse…there is an app
5. Honour her Father and Mother
should seem pretty self explanatory, but for those of you who choose to
move at a more glacial pace, this means to treat her parents with the
upmost respect. A daughter is the most precious thing in the world to a
father (Hell, John Mayer wrote a freaking song about it, if you haven’t
heard it, ask to borrow your girlfriend’s iPod). How a man treats his
girlfriend’s mother will tell the girlfriend a lot about your character
as a person. Remember, these are the people who raised her, the people
who think she is infallible, and the people who definitely do not want
their little girl going out with anyone that remotely resembles a
douchebag. Sir and Ma’am, Mr/Mrs., will go a long way at securing a
happy relationship with your girlfriend.
6. Thou shalt not murder her friendships
girl needs girl time. Never bad mouth her friends, or try to keep her
away from them. You will come to find that befriending her friends will
become much more advantageous to you than trashing them. A girl’s circle
of friends is similar to a go to therapist if you will, believe me when
I say, it will be much better for you when you screw up (trust me, you
will, you are a man) if her friends have issued upon you their stamp of
7. Thou SHALT NOT COMMIT ADULTERY!
For those of you who were in the remedial class, this means DO NOT CHEAT! Don’t even think about it.
8. Thou shalt not steal
of being a man is having a bank account, a job, a car, an
apartment/house. If you do not, then you probably should not be dating
to begin with. (Seriously, get off your ass and find a job). It is sad
that I even have to tell you this, but do not take stuff from your
girlfriend. Be a man, pay for dinner, do not drive around in her car,
and do not take advantage of her apartment so that you can get out of
your Mom’s basement, basically, grow up.
9. Thou shalt not bear false witness against your girlfriend
to know the quickest way to Dumpsville? Lie to your girlfriend. It does
not matter if it is a small lie like, “I am sorry I am late baby, I
stopped by the bank on the way home.” when you actually went to your
buddy’s house to play a game of Madden. Or a BIG lie like, “I swear I
have no idea how those panties ended up in my laundry.” (We already went
over this with #7 btw.) To a woman, a lie is a lie, is a lie, and once
you are a liar, you will always be a liar. The truth will set you free
gentleman, and believe it or not, she will respect you more if you just
own up to your shortcomings.
10. Thou shalt not covet other people’s stuff
may seem pretty small in comparison to everything else listed in this
article but nothing turns off a woman faster than you whining about what
you don’t have. Women want a man with ambition and a backbone…sitting
around complaining that so and so has this or that, is not going to
garnish sympathy, it will garnish resentment. And more than likely end
in your girlfriend running to find Mr. So And So. Man up, and take pride
in what you have, be humble toward what others have, and show the
ambition to achieve what you want. Your girlfriend does not want to hear
you complain about your friend’s 60”LCD screen and NFL ticket on Direct
TV, and whine about how you wish you had it.
there you have it gentleman, The Ten Commandments of Being a Man.
Remember these are just guidelines, if you follow them, you will have a
much happier and healthier relationship. Nothing I discussed is that
hard to do. It will probably take you less time than checking your
Facebook status, which seriously bro, at a certain point you should
probably grow out of doing…but that’s another article.
Thanks to 21st Century Career Mom for letting me share.
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